Tips on how to improve your HEAD game (Give better Oral Sex)
- Candace Aloway
- Dec 26, 2021
- 7 min read
Ever give a guy oral sex and he doesn’t seem that into it and/or he stops you? Do you find yourself wondering how you can do a better job at pleasing your man? Giving him an amazing mind blowing blow job will do the trick!
It's all about knowing your partner intimately by simply asking questions or paying attention to their reactions to sexual acts. Did they moan in pleasure, or grip the sheets? Or did they jump and move or say ‘Ow’! Are they even a fan of oral sex? (Some people do not to receive it). Once you gain knowledge of what your partner likes and dislikes, next it time to work on attitude and technique.
One of the best parts of oral sex is the passion. Just imagine your partner doing something for you that you wanted them to do with no enthusiasm. It’s just seem like they don’t want to do it. You’re probably not going to get the same enjoyment out of it that you would have gotten if they seemed equally into it. Same goes for oral. You want them to feel and see that your into it. So go ahead and check out your partner while your doing your thing! That’s a good way to confirm what he does or doesn’t like.
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How To Give Good Oral Sex
1. Make noises to let him know your into it!
Making moaning, slurping, and soft spitting sounds can be a huge turn-on. It lets him know you're enjoying yourself and makes the experience feel even more exciting for both of you.
While making your sounds and adding all the little extras, you still want to keep giving consistent oral. Try not to stop every few seconds just to make a noise. Let the sounds happen naturally while you keep a steady rhythm.
If you're not used to making noise during oral, don't worry. It gets easier with practice. Try putting one or two freshly washed fingers in your mouth and practice sucking on them. Then try softly moaning while you do it. It may feel a little funny at first, but it helps you get comfortable. Before you know it, it'll feel natural.
If you're spitting, try adding a soft, sexy sound when you do it. It can make the moment feel even hotter. Just make sure your partner enjoys that kind of thing. Some people love it, while others don't, so it's always good to pay attention to what they like.
One last tip. Try to keep the sounds coming from your mouth instead of forcing them from the back of your throat. Natural sounds usually come across much sexier than trying too hard.
The biggest thing to remember is this: you don't have to sound like you're in a movie. If you're having a good time and letting him see that, that's what makes it sexy.
2. Lots of Spit
Your mouth is now the main focus during oral sex. The goal is to make it feel as warm, wet, and smooth as possible. Saliva helps reduce friction, makes everything glide more easily, and can make oral feel much more pleasurable for him.
Don't be afraid to get a little messy. Spit inside the bedroom isn't looked at the same way it is in everyday life. For many people, it's part of what makes oral feel more natural and exciting.
Some men enjoy seeing the spit because they find it visually arousing, while others don't really care. Everyone is different, so pay attention to what your partner enjoys or simply ask. Even if he doesn't want to see it, keeping plenty of saliva on his penis can make the experience feel much better.
If you struggle with dry mouth or just aren't producing much saliva, don't panic. Take a short break to swallow, sip some water beforehand if needed, or use a flavored, body-safe lubricant that's made for oral sex.
Another trick that helps some people is briefly taking the penis deeper into the mouth, as far as you're comfortable. This can naturally increase saliva for some people. Never force yourself to go deeper than you're comfortable with, and don't push yourself to the point of gagging or throwing up. The goal is to make oral feel enjoyable for both of you, not painful or stressful.
3. Use Your Hands
Your mouth doesn't have to do all the work. Using your hands is a great way to give your mouth a short break without slowing the experience down. If your technique is good, he may not even notice that you've switched some of the work to your hands.
This is also a great time to build anticipation. While using your hands, you can make eye contact, smile, talk dirty, or let out a few soft moans. Those little things can be just as exciting as the physical stimulation.
Try wrapping one hand around the penis and matching the movement of your mouth. If you're comfortable, you can use your other hand to gently massage or cup his testicles. Many men enjoy this, but everyone is different.
You can also explore other parts of his body, like his thighs, stomach, hips, or chest. Light touches in these areas can make the experience feel more intimate and exciting.
The most important thing is to know what your partner likes. Some men enjoy having their testicles touched, while others prefer very little pressure. Some may even enjoy stimulation around their anus, while others may feel completely uncomfortable with it. There's no right or wrong answer. The best way to know is by talking about it or paying attention to how they respond.
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4. Eye Contact
Eye contact is a powerful way to communicate without saying a word. It lets your partner know you're focused on them, enjoying the moment, and fully into what you're doing. For many people, that can be incredibly sexy.
At the same time, everyone feels differently about eye contact. Some people love it because it makes the experience feel more personal and exciting. Others may find it a little intense, especially if they're shy. The best way to find out what your partner likes is to simply try it.
While giving oral, slowly look up at them and make eye contact for a few seconds. Once you've locked eyes, let out a soft moan or smile before looking back down and continuing what you're doing. That little moment of connection can build a lot of excitement.
Pay attention to how they react. If they tell you to "look at me again," keep watching you, smile, or seem even more turned on, there's a good chance they really enjoyed it. If they avoid looking down or seem uncomfortable, don't take it personally. Eye contact just may not be their thing.
One thing to remember is not to stare the entire time. Short moments of eye contact usually feel much more natural and sexy than holding it for too long. Think of it as a quick tease that keeps them wanting more.
Just like every other part of oral sex, there's no one-size-fits-all approach. The more you learn what your partner enjoys, the more confident you'll become, and the better the experience will be for both of you.
5. Don't Forget About the Testicles! "Balls"
Like I mentioned before, it's important to know what's okay and what's not okay with your partner. Everyone likes different things, so don't assume. A quick conversation beforehand can make both of you feel more comfortable and help you both enjoy the experience even more.
If your partner enjoys testicle stimulation, don't forget to include them. Gently massaging, cupping, or lightly holding the testicles can add another layer of pleasure during oral sex. Some people also enjoy having their testicles gently taken into the mouth, often called "tea bagging." If your partner likes it, adding it to your routine can make the experience even more exciting.
This is also a great way to give your mouth a short break. While you're focusing on their testicles, you can use one hand to stroke the penis and keep the pleasure going. You can also gently massage the testicles with one hand while using your mouth and your other hand together. Mixing up your techniques helps keep the experience interesting and shows your partner that you're paying attention to their whole body, not just one area.
Remember to be gentle. The testicles are very sensitive, so start with light pressure and pay attention to how your partner reacts. If they seem to enjoy it, keep going. If they pull away or seem uncomfortable, ease up or stop. Their reactions will tell you a lot.
Putting It All Together
These five tips can help make oral sex feel more exciting, pleasurable, and connected for both of you. The biggest secret isn't trying every technique. It's learning what your partner enjoys and having fun exploring together.
Talk about what feels good, what doesn't, and where your boundaries are before you get started. Once you both know what's on and off the table, you can relax, have fun, and enjoy the experience with confidence.
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