Teasing & Control Commands For BDSM: Dirty Talk
- Candace Aloway
- Feb 10
- 4 min read
Teasing and control commands & dirty talking are about taking your time and letting desire build until it feels heavy, charged, and impossible to ignore. They create a slow, intentional tension that sinks into your body and keeps your mind completely focused on the moment.
When someone tells you to stay still, wait, or behave, it can send a rush through you, making you feel chosen, claimed, and deeply wanted, because you are surrendering control on purpose. For the person giving the command, it feels powerful and intoxicating, like your voice alone can shift the atmosphere and pull your partner exactly where you want them.
These commands stretch time, sharpen every sensation, and turn waiting into its own form of pleasure. They create a kind of tension that feels intimate and consuming, reminding both partners that real desire is built in the space between action, where anticipation takes over and every word matters.
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These are gentle, confident, and non-intimidating, perfect for first-time power play or soft dominance.
Come closer and stay right where I put you.
Take a breath and slow everything down for me.
Let me guide you, you don’t have to rush.
Stay still while I decide what happens next.
Relax your body and let me take the lead.
Follow my instructions and trust the moment.
Hold that position just a little longer.
Look at me and stay present right here.
You’re doing great, keep listening to me.
Stay exactly like that, you’re perfect.
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These are perfect for edging moments, restraint play, or anytime you want to stretch desire instead of rushing it. They also sound natural when spoken, which makes them feel more confident and less scripted.
Stay exactly where you are until I tell you otherwise.
Keep your hands still while I decide what happens next.
Hold that position and feel every second of it.
Don’t move a muscle, even if it drives you crazy.
Look at me while I make you wait.
Take a deep breath and stay right there for me.
You can squirm, but you’re not allowed to touch.
Stay quiet and let your body do the talking.
Hold still while I take my time with you.
Wait patiently and show me how well you can behave.
Teasing & Control Dirty Talking for Text Messages
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These are anticipatory, flirty, and confidence-building, ideal for building heat hours before you even touch.
Later tonight, I want you exactly where I left you mentally.
Don’t do anything about how turned on you feel yet.
Behave today, I’m paying attention.
Keep thinking about what I told you earlier.
Save that energy, you’ll need it for me.
I like knowing you’re waiting on my permission.
Stay focused today, I have plans for you later.
Don’t forget who gets your attention tonight.
I love knowing I’m on your mind right now.
Be ready when I finally get my hands on you.
10 Text Message Commands For Intermediate
They introduce delayed gratification, authority, and implied reward, which creates control without being crude. The power lives in what’s promised, not what’s said outright.
I want you thinking about me, but you’re not allowed to do anything about it yet.
Be good today. I’m deciding what you earn later.
I love knowing you’re holding back for me right now.
Don’t forget who’s in control of how tonight unfolds.
Stay distracted all day knowing I’m the reason why.
You can feel turned on, just don’t act on it without permission.
Keep that tension exactly where it is. I’ll handle it later.
I like you better when you’re waiting on me.
Everything you’re feeling right now belongs to tonight.
Behave now so I can reward you properly later.
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These are for building power and tension before you’re together. Short. Confident. Heavy with implication.
I expect you to behave until I see you.
Don’t forget who you’re holding back for tonight.
I like knowing you’re waiting on my permission.
Everything you’re feeling right now belongs to me later.
Stay focused today. I have plans for you.
You’re doing exactly what I want by waiting.
Don’t touch. I’ll handle that when the time comes.
I want you exactly like this when I see you.
Keep that tension. I’m not releasing it yet.
Behave now. I’ll decide what you earn later.
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